Road in forest with beams of light

The Road Less Traveled

There’s a famous quote from an equally famous poem by Robert Frost titled ‘The Road Not Taken’. The quote is this:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

I spent so much time in my life trying to fit in, to be the same. I thought being the same as everyone else would mean I was acceptable, approved of and ultimately, loved.

Growing up, I wasn’t particularly athletic, academic or technical so in school I didn’t fit into any of the typical categories. Nor did I fit in with the popular girls because I was shy, insecure and didn’t think I was pretty.

OMG the crazy things I’ve done in the name of seeking approval! From dramatic calorie reduced diets, bizarre hair colour (and styles) and wearing clothes that didn’t suit me, to agreeing with things I actually found offensive and laughing at jokes that made me cry on the inside.

As I grew up (I’m talking in my 20’s and even into my 30’s) I learned to make friends with what makes me different and eventually to even celebrate them.

As I’ve said before, it takes courage to be who you are; to be authentically you. And that’s why these lines in this poem speak volumes to me. How many of us actually have the courage, the willingness to be dis-approved of, to stay true to and honour ourselves and take the road less traveled?

I recently started following a beautiful and incredibly heart-centered young man by the name of Preston Smiles. Check him out here: www.prestonsmiles.com

I bring him up because I heard him say “… if the entire world was blind, who would you be trying to impress?”

So let me ask you… does feeling not good enough stop you in life? Take a moment and notice without judgement, if you:

  • do/say things to get validation
  • apologize without sincerity and when you don’t mean it
  • dress for other people
  • not say something out of fear/worry what others will think

If you do, ask yourself how this serves you.  Is it working for you?

Sometimes we actually outgrow the feelings of not being good enough, but the habits associated with the belief, stay. And it’s those habits (some of which are listed above) that keep us playing small.

If it’s not a habit, make a commitment to yourself to get support in releasing that belief. It may have served a purpose as a child by keeping you safe, but it no longer serves you and will prevent you from being and doing all you are capable of, and here for.

We all have the opportunity to take the road less traveled. It’s called Your Life and it’s designed for you and you alone. If you don’t take it, it remains untraveled and the world misses out.

When faced with something that scares you, recall Preston’s words and imagine the whole world is blind. There’s no one to impress.

Now go do that thing and spill your brilliance into the world.

xo

Jumping

It’s The Inner Work That Creates Outer Results

I’ve heard it said that the best personal development course is to start your own business.

Boy is that the truth!

There are phenomenal high’s, and incredible low’s. But life in general is like that, isn’t it? Whether you’re an entrepreneur carving out your own path, at home raising children or climbing the corporate ladder, life will challenge you.

Below are tips and suggestions my own mentor recently shared with me that can help when navigating the more turbulent times.

  • Stay focused on your dream and take consistent action towards it. Keep it in your field of vision by writing it out and posting it in places you frequent; your car, bathroom mirror, closet door. And take some kind of action towards it every day. The actions steps don’t have to be huge, but move forward every single day and the momentum will grow.
  • Notice if you are bored in either your business or life. What has become mundane? Where have things become business as usual ~ whether its an actual business or some other area of life? What can you do to inspire, excite and uplift yourself? Can you introduce something entirely different from your usual routine that brings you joy?
  • Practice asking better questions. Questions that keep moving you toward your dream, growing and igniting possibility instead of keeping you stuck and constricted. Ask how could this work, or, who can help? Get organized, get clear about what you can let go of and what is non-negotiable for you.
  • It isn’t necessary to know how everything is going to come together before hand. Just start; go back to step one and stay connected to your dream.
  • Allow yourself time to soul search. It takes courage to be authentically you. Give yourself time and space to become familiar with what makes you, you. What are your preferences, your style your idiosyncrasies and your dislikes?
  • You do not have to reach crisis mode, burnout, drama or anger in order to take time to nurture you. Learn to recognize when you are headed in that direction and choose something different. Hint: the better you know yourself, the faster you will catch yourself and make another choice.

Grant yourself permission to live your life by your design. Your life belongs to you. Nurture you, get to know who you are and bring that to the world. It’s why you are here.

xo